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Well, yeah. I’m a straight woman, and these sorts of conversations are just not a big part of my life. I have friends I’ve known 20 years and I have only a sketchy knowledge of their sexual habits. When they started having babies, there was a lot more body-talk around for a bit, but that was limited unless I was moved to ask questions (I didn’t tell them when I started trying for a child myself, but the conversations were easier to partake in at that point). Then I got pregnant, and I got the details they’d been shielding me from. Weirdly, some of my female work colleagues were also fascinated by that stuff, despite none of them being interested in having babies, to my knowledge. But even the ones that asked about that stuff in an open plan office do not discuss their partners’ body parts.
The realistic mums brigade has had frank chats about childcare issues that would not pass muster as polite conversation with someone not also dealing with nappies, and some discussion about that weird thing when you achieve a balanced, 21st Century sharing of chores until you spend 6 months or longer at home with the baby and suddenly all the tasks you did because you were home all day are Yours Forever*. But not with non-parents, for the most part. These people are supposed to be your friends, why do that to them?
OP: get better friends, not all straight women do this. Although most of them *will* complain about the chore thing, you can avoid the random body talk easily. Men embrace the whole ‘Boys don’t do chores’ part of sexism nearly as enthusiastically as they embrace the ‘I know more and should be paid more’ part. You have to train them out of it. But since I’m at one end of the tidy/messy spectrum (beyond me on the tidy side is my mum), I know many women who are far messier than me, and I assume that that sort of mismatch at least occasionally occurs in lesbian relationships too, so I’m assuming it’s less alienating.
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*I broke this cycle by going back to work and getting a cleaner.
The realistic mums brigade has had frank chats about childcare issues that would not pass muster as polite conversation with someone not also dealing with nappies, and some discussion about that weird thing when you achieve a balanced, 21st Century sharing of chores until you spend 6 months or longer at home with the baby and suddenly all the tasks you did because you were home all day are Yours Forever*. But not with non-parents, for the most part. These people are supposed to be your friends, why do that to them?
OP: get better friends, not all straight women do this. Although most of them *will* complain about the chore thing, you can avoid the random body talk easily. Men embrace the whole ‘Boys don’t do chores’ part of sexism nearly as enthusiastically as they embrace the ‘I know more and should be paid more’ part. You have to train them out of it. But since I’m at one end of the tidy/messy spectrum (beyond me on the tidy side is my mum), I know many women who are far messier than me, and I assume that that sort of mismatch at least occasionally occurs in lesbian relationships too, so I’m assuming it’s less alienating.
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*I broke this cycle by going back to work and getting a cleaner.
Some rando: *plays music*
Everyone: OMFG! That's so awesome! Can you believe how cool that is?!? Omg 😱
Me: they have such HORRIBLE technique! 😖 the rhythm is so SO UNEVEN!!! 😁 how can it be so OUT OF TUNE?!? 😰 OMFG
Yes I am a horrible music snob lol
Everyone: OMFG! That's so awesome! Can you believe how cool that is?!? Omg 😱
Me: they have such HORRIBLE technique! 😖 the rhythm is so SO UNEVEN!!! 😁 how can it be so OUT OF TUNE?!? 😰 OMFG
Yes I am a horrible music snob lol
what is even the point of being asexual and aromantic
it seems like just an excuse to be a shut in
it seems like just an excuse to be a shut in
“I feel intrinsically feminine. I went to an insight course at the parachute regiment. I thought, “I want to join up, do three years, go to Iraq, do my bit, get physically fit.” So I went to White City barracks and I realized I had a real phobia about groups of men, I’m frightened of them, I’m much more comfortable around women. I’d love to be one of the boys but I always felt a bit on the outside. Maybe my masculine qualities come from over-compensating that I’m not one of the boys. Anyway, it was fucking horrible, man. I signed up for three years and after forty minutes I had to talk my way out of it. They don’t need people like me, they need someone who’s prepared to go over and kill people.” — Tom Hardy, Attitude, 2008
Tom Hardy explaining that the tattoo of Madonna and Child represents his view of himself being a good mother to his son: "That was about mothering me,” he says. “I went through a lot of stuff leaving home and becoming a father and growing up to be my own mother. I have a mother; she’s amazing. But this is about being able to mother my parents and my son and myself - which is very painful. Getting my head around that growth spurt.”
Tom Hardy explaining that the tattoo of Madonna and Child represents his view of himself being a good mother to his son: "That was about mothering me,” he says. “I went through a lot of stuff leaving home and becoming a father and growing up to be my own mother. I have a mother; she’s amazing. But this is about being able to mother my parents and my son and myself - which is very painful. Getting my head around that growth spurt.”
i was backreading and i never ever expected storm hawks to be mentioned on anon
i felt silly being into it just in high school when it was airing lol
but they REALLY push piper/master cyclonus (which is two girls) so i watched it religiously
and then rped it
i felt silly being into it just in high school when it was airing lol
but they REALLY push piper/master cyclonus (which is two girls) so i watched it religiously
and then rped it
also there was supposed to be an mmo but it never came to fruition which broke my dumb heart
also the fandom was grotesquely obsessed with stork (paranoid hypochondriac alien dude) and it was super het and there was this one dA artist who drew tons of self-insert art including porn with him wtf
also the fandom was grotesquely obsessed with stork (paranoid hypochondriac alien dude) and it was super het and there was this one dA artist who drew tons of self-insert art including porn with him wtf
the singer from dead sara is a scientologist?
wow! this is a really good post! here’s a fun game you can try playing on the next one!
DON’T KEEP USING “SOCIOPATH” AS A BY-WORD FOR ABUSIVE DICKWAD OUT TO HURT PEOPLE
holy hecker it’s almost like you can say all of this without being ableist woah wow who’da thunkit
DON’T KEEP USING “SOCIOPATH” AS A BY-WORD FOR ABUSIVE DICKWAD OUT TO HURT PEOPLE
holy hecker it’s almost like you can say all of this without being ableist woah wow who’da thunkit
Someone just told me they hate Scott because he’s too good and his head was always up Allison’s ass like first of all, FIRST OF ALL HOW DARE YOU.
Secondly, I’m sick of this ‘characters have to have a dark side’ thing. Can’t Scott McCall be the Captain America? Why does he have to have an asshole side? I don’t get it.
ALSO of course he followed Allison around he was a puppy dog in love for the first time. My baby was head over heels for Allison and she was the same for him so okay don’t hate him for that.
#scott mccall#teen wolf#scott mccall defense squad
Secondly, I’m sick of this ‘characters have to have a dark side’ thing. Can’t Scott McCall be the Captain America? Why does he have to have an asshole side? I don’t get it.
ALSO of course he followed Allison around he was a puppy dog in love for the first time. My baby was head over heels for Allison and she was the same for him so okay don’t hate him for that.
#scott mccall#teen wolf#scott mccall defense squad
i was reading a thing about earnest hemingway, and how despite there being an image of him being the pinnacle of american masculinity back in the day, all his friends families and contemporaries would remark on how 'androgynous and emasculated' he was and be perplexed by the masculine image he tried to cultivate through his literary work when that wasn't like the real him at all
and then apparently because he wrote frequently of mutilation of male genitalia and themes of man and woman combining tmerging in various symbolic ways, and then the fact his daughter was a trans woman people think hemingway was repressed trans?
and then apparently because he wrote frequently of mutilation of male genitalia and themes of man and woman combining tmerging in various symbolic ways, and then the fact his daughter was a trans woman people think hemingway was repressed trans?
http://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2014/mar/14/peru-women-forced-sterilisation-justice
http://www.perusupportgroup.org.uk/news-article-853.html
D: we're all culpable
http://www.perusupportgroup.org.uk/news-article-853.html
D: we're all culpable
Sexuality: Lesbian, which includes enby & genderqueer & agender & other types of non male people. And yeah I occasionally meet someone who calls himself a guy who’s femmey enough for me to be like “Yeah I probably would”.
monetizeyourcat:
society encourages you to err on the side of Boy Reasons.
that girl who sometimes spends more than an hour in a night getting her look perfect and takes photos and looks at them sometimes to remind herself however she’s feeling now that she can still be fabulous? that’s for a boy.
that girl who wears a snapback and jeans and thinks sometimes about the girl who might have had a crush on her in the 5th grade and wonders how things would be different if she knew? that’s envying boys and wanting to be one.
that boy who puts on girl clothes and high femme makeup and kisses and dances with boys in an environment where everyone calls her “she”? that’s to emphasize how much of a boy she is by showing off how femme she can be but be a boy anyway.
that boy who thinks about how maybe if his body were a girl body the people who matter to him would love him and he could love himself? that’s just a sneaky way of getting girls with him as a het boy.
that person who injects testosterone into their body because they want more hair and a deeper voice? obviously that’s a boy, boys prefer to have those things.
that person who injects estrogen into their body because they want less hair and bigger and more mature breasts? obviously that’s a boy, boys love those things.
that boy who is so afraid of boys he could die because of the ways boys have talked about him and touched him and the ways boys look at him, for the love of God, the ways boys look at him like he’s meat, and the way everyone just lets it happen and no one cares how afraid he is? that’s nothing but normal boyhood gay anxiety, and he’s afraid of nothing but the boys compromising his boyhood.
these things all happen, we are supposed to think, for boy reasons, and never for girl reasons. things aren’t allowed to be about girls. girls are what happens when someone somewhere has made a mistake. but the light of day comes in through the cracks. there are girl reasons, there are always girl reasons. the love we have for each other is too powerful to die no matter how deep you bury it
society encourages you to err on the side of Boy Reasons.
that girl who sometimes spends more than an hour in a night getting her look perfect and takes photos and looks at them sometimes to remind herself however she’s feeling now that she can still be fabulous? that’s for a boy.
that girl who wears a snapback and jeans and thinks sometimes about the girl who might have had a crush on her in the 5th grade and wonders how things would be different if she knew? that’s envying boys and wanting to be one.
that boy who puts on girl clothes and high femme makeup and kisses and dances with boys in an environment where everyone calls her “she”? that’s to emphasize how much of a boy she is by showing off how femme she can be but be a boy anyway.
that boy who thinks about how maybe if his body were a girl body the people who matter to him would love him and he could love himself? that’s just a sneaky way of getting girls with him as a het boy.
that person who injects testosterone into their body because they want more hair and a deeper voice? obviously that’s a boy, boys prefer to have those things.
that person who injects estrogen into their body because they want less hair and bigger and more mature breasts? obviously that’s a boy, boys love those things.
that boy who is so afraid of boys he could die because of the ways boys have talked about him and touched him and the ways boys look at him, for the love of God, the ways boys look at him like he’s meat, and the way everyone just lets it happen and no one cares how afraid he is? that’s nothing but normal boyhood gay anxiety, and he’s afraid of nothing but the boys compromising his boyhood.
these things all happen, we are supposed to think, for boy reasons, and never for girl reasons. things aren’t allowed to be about girls. girls are what happens when someone somewhere has made a mistake. but the light of day comes in through the cracks. there are girl reasons, there are always girl reasons. the love we have for each other is too powerful to die no matter how deep you bury it
what are you sacrificing this merry midsummer day, heathens?
my printer if it doesn't start printing right
Six recognized genders in Old Israel
Zachar: Usually translated as “male” in English.
Nekevah: Usually translated as “female” in English.
Androgynos: A person who has both “male” and “female” sexual characteristics. [Source: 149 references in Mishna and Talmud (1st-8th Centuries CE); 350 in classical midrash and Jewish law codes (2nd -16th Centuries CE).]
Tumtum: A person whose sexual characteristics are indeterminate or obscured. [Source: 181 references in Mishna and Talmud; 335 in classical midrash and Jewish law codes.]
Ay’lonit: A person who is identified as “female” at birth but develops “male” characteristics at puberty and is infertile. [Source: 80 references in Mishna and Talmud; 40 in classical midrash and Jewish law codes.]
Saris: A person who is identified as “male” at birth but develops “female” characteristics as puberty and/or is lacking a penis. A saris can be “naturally” a saris (saris hamah), or become one through human intervention (saris adam). [Source: 156 references in mishna and Talmud; 379 in
classical midrash and Jewish law codes.]
Source: Classical Jewish Terms for Gender Diversity by Rabbi Elliot Kukla, 2006
Our Sages non-judgmentally explore the role of intersex people in regards to many facets of ritual and civil law such as circumcision, redemption, oath-taking and menstruation.
The midrash, in Bereshit Rabah, posits that Adam, the first human being, was actually an androgynos. While in the Babylonian Talmud (Yevamot 64a-64b) the radical claim is made that Abraham and Sarah were tumtumim, gender non-conforming people. According to our tradition the first human being and the first Jews were gender outlaws. This teaches us that it is those that transgress the apparently rigid lines of Judaism that have caused the tradition to grow.
– Rabbi Elliot Kukla, Parashat Vayechi: Beyond Stick Figures
Zachar: Usually translated as “male” in English.
Nekevah: Usually translated as “female” in English.
Androgynos: A person who has both “male” and “female” sexual characteristics. [Source: 149 references in Mishna and Talmud (1st-8th Centuries CE); 350 in classical midrash and Jewish law codes (2nd -16th Centuries CE).]
Tumtum: A person whose sexual characteristics are indeterminate or obscured. [Source: 181 references in Mishna and Talmud; 335 in classical midrash and Jewish law codes.]
Ay’lonit: A person who is identified as “female” at birth but develops “male” characteristics at puberty and is infertile. [Source: 80 references in Mishna and Talmud; 40 in classical midrash and Jewish law codes.]
Saris: A person who is identified as “male” at birth but develops “female” characteristics as puberty and/or is lacking a penis. A saris can be “naturally” a saris (saris hamah), or become one through human intervention (saris adam). [Source: 156 references in mishna and Talmud; 379 in
classical midrash and Jewish law codes.]
Source: Classical Jewish Terms for Gender Diversity by Rabbi Elliot Kukla, 2006
Our Sages non-judgmentally explore the role of intersex people in regards to many facets of ritual and civil law such as circumcision, redemption, oath-taking and menstruation.
The midrash, in Bereshit Rabah, posits that Adam, the first human being, was actually an androgynos. While in the Babylonian Talmud (Yevamot 64a-64b) the radical claim is made that Abraham and Sarah were tumtumim, gender non-conforming people. According to our tradition the first human being and the first Jews were gender outlaws. This teaches us that it is those that transgress the apparently rigid lines of Judaism that have caused the tradition to grow.
– Rabbi Elliot Kukla, Parashat Vayechi: Beyond Stick Figures
the dinosaur designs are so bad in this movie and made even worse than the previous ones in that theories on dino appearance are radically different now
wow that hemmingway analysis was rlly bad
creeping on lesbians, liking cowgirl position and possible incest make men trans
creeping on lesbians, liking cowgirl position and possible incest make men trans
This makes sense to Tumblrinas because they strongly believe in old-fashioned conservative gender roles.
If someone wears a skirt, they must be female. If someone wears pants, they must be male.
The concept of a woman wearing pants is alien and incomprehensible to them. When she puts on pants, she is transitioning into a male form and is no longer a woman while she has them on.
If someone wears a skirt, they must be female. If someone wears pants, they must be male.
The concept of a woman wearing pants is alien and incomprehensible to them. When she puts on pants, she is transitioning into a male form and is no longer a woman while she has them on.
Josephine and The Amazing Transitioning Pants
http://www.themarysue.com/genderswapped-avengers/
lol most of these are completely ridiculous
esp kstew as loki
lol most of these are completely ridiculous
esp kstew as loki
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