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Amber Eeeeeee
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wait postsecret posted a murder confession and map to find the body??
Amber Eeeeeee
@rare_basement
wait postsecret posted a murder confession and map to find the body??
i bet you a million dollars iwan flashed his dick
I WAS JERKING OFF WITH MY BADDRAGON AND LUBING IT UP, AND IT GOT TOO LUBED AND I DROPPED IT ON THE GROUND AND THEN SCREAMED.
hes an infant, too, which makes it weird
he's 25...
he's 25...
dreamwidth is so slow today. is it cause tomorrow is a holiday?
I hate it when you’re reading smut and you can’t figure out what position they’re in.
headcanon: Cecil’s tattoos bloom into flowers when he thinks about ~Carloos~
MY BAD DRAGON IS ON THE FEDEX TRUCK HERE.
[VIBRATES]
[VIBRATES]
pls share particularly hilarious posts from the waiting lists or w/e
nonas how do you handle your cats when they hiss at you and have a history of physical aggression? my cat hasn't hurt me in a year, so i thought everything was fine with her now, but today she hissed at me, and i was grateful it didn't escalate to claws.
her regular feeding time is in two hours and i dnw to go near her in case she flips out.
suggestions?
her regular feeding time is in two hours and i dnw to go near her in case she flips out.
suggestions?
postsecret reminds me of all the h8 i have for ppl who scorn virgins for not knowing what to do after x many years. if you don't say anything, of course they won't know how to please you. even a person who's had lots of sex can be sucky with you bc we're not robots with buttons u press for orgasm
someone in ontd said the US is worse than the nazis........
my youngest sister made up a song when she was little and it was so groce, idk how she even thought of it. it was like
sooooometimes i like to make doooooodlessssss....
in my overaaaaaalls.
sooooometimes i do it for the pleasuuuuure....
and sometimes...
it just....
slips ooooouuuutttttt...
sooooometimes i like to make doooooodlessssss....
in my overaaaaaalls.
sooooometimes i do it for the pleasuuuuure....
and sometimes...
it just....
slips ooooouuuutttttt...
I have never felt in such good company (for better or worse) until I read through some of your posts about waiting for engagement. I empathize with so many posters about the mix of emotions that go through your mind while 'waiting' so I thought I would share my story. My SO and I have been together 7 years and have lived together for the last 4. We have a dog are committed, though due to a new job have had to be long distance (only 3 hours apart) for the last year, but still see each other every weekend and spent most of the summer together.
I know he has the ring (I've seen it) for a long time. That should be exciting but I also know he's had issues with proposing. He's been as open as a guy tends to be about this - says how committed he is, plans our future, our wedding date, is very focused on making sure I'm happy. However, I would be lying if I said his lack of proposing and kind of (unintentionally) stringing me along isn't really difficult. It's definitely led to our fair share of discussions and a break initiated by me last year. Only to be promised 'soon' again.
Well, due to a new work project starting in a week, including a lot more travel for me, along with wanting children (we are in our 30's), and waiting for so long I said to him a few weeks ago I couldn't imagine starting this new phase of my life still dating. He's had time to figure things out, he has a ring, he knows me, we are committed, and we've certainly had our bumps but love each other very much, there's just no reason left in my opinion not to move forward.
Having read other posts, there are mixed opinions on setting a time limit on things. However, I know in my heart I can't wake up any more wondering and missing out on having children because I kept waiting...because what if he never ended up proposing? He says that would never happen, but how would I know. Most of my friends, including those who have dated much less time, are engaged/married/and/or have children by now. I've calmly (sometimes less so) watched them all, been to all the events, seen the looks on their faces and quietly carried on. It's just not healthy for me or him to keep in this holding pattern. He completely agrees but I still don't know what that means. I basically told him that if he didn't already have something specifically planned that he should know in his heart that's the answer - that he can't seem to make time despite how much I'm hurting and how much he says he wants to marry me, etc.
So needless to say this isn't the easiest week. I will say he's been exceptionally caring, doting, communicating since we had this conversation, but I don't know what that means. Any input, words of wisdom, experience are welcome.
I should also say it's not about a ring or a wedding to me, and he knows that, it never has been. For me it's about starting our family, having kids and moving forward in a way we have both agreed on (though he's clearly struggled with this at times, he has never once told me he didn't want to be married which would be a different scenario)
I know he has the ring (I've seen it) for a long time. That should be exciting but I also know he's had issues with proposing. He's been as open as a guy tends to be about this - says how committed he is, plans our future, our wedding date, is very focused on making sure I'm happy. However, I would be lying if I said his lack of proposing and kind of (unintentionally) stringing me along isn't really difficult. It's definitely led to our fair share of discussions and a break initiated by me last year. Only to be promised 'soon' again.
Well, due to a new work project starting in a week, including a lot more travel for me, along with wanting children (we are in our 30's), and waiting for so long I said to him a few weeks ago I couldn't imagine starting this new phase of my life still dating. He's had time to figure things out, he has a ring, he knows me, we are committed, and we've certainly had our bumps but love each other very much, there's just no reason left in my opinion not to move forward.
Having read other posts, there are mixed opinions on setting a time limit on things. However, I know in my heart I can't wake up any more wondering and missing out on having children because I kept waiting...because what if he never ended up proposing? He says that would never happen, but how would I know. Most of my friends, including those who have dated much less time, are engaged/married/and/or have children by now. I've calmly (sometimes less so) watched them all, been to all the events, seen the looks on their faces and quietly carried on. It's just not healthy for me or him to keep in this holding pattern. He completely agrees but I still don't know what that means. I basically told him that if he didn't already have something specifically planned that he should know in his heart that's the answer - that he can't seem to make time despite how much I'm hurting and how much he says he wants to marry me, etc.
So needless to say this isn't the easiest week. I will say he's been exceptionally caring, doting, communicating since we had this conversation, but I don't know what that means. Any input, words of wisdom, experience are welcome.
I should also say it's not about a ring or a wedding to me, and he knows that, it never has been. For me it's about starting our family, having kids and moving forward in a way we have both agreed on (though he's clearly struggled with this at times, he has never once told me he didn't want to be married which would be a different scenario)
the thing abt weddingbee "waiting" forum that idg is like, they bought a ring (or know their SO bought one), are setting a date, making wedding plans, etc. but there's no proposal so they're not engaged???
...I can't believe I am posting here, but I truly, desperately need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 8 years (It'll be *9* in January, geezus...). Bear with me, it's somewhat of a long story. I guess I just want to let you all know the journey of myself and my boyfriend to fully understand everything.
We're incredibly great for each other, with tons of the same interests, temperament etc. We met in college, at about 20-21 years old, and early on in dating, we both said we never wanted children, so if either of us wanted them, get out of the relationship now (that part is truly perfect). He was in the year below me, and I actually stuck around the area for an extra year to wait for him to graduate.
After a bit of moving, we ended up in the same city, before he was sent abroad to Japan for about a year and a half for work. We kept in contact nearly every single day that he was gone, and while there were certainly hard times, we made it work. I even visited him for a month, and he came and visited me back in the US for a week or two when he was given time off. The economy then plummeted and I was desperately searching for a job on the East Coast. It got extremely bad and I was forced to move across the country for a new job. We'd been together about five years at this point, just constantly trying to get a stable job and settle on one location for most of it. His job ended and he was still trying to find a new job in Japan (since that's his dream location), with no luck. I told him should he decide to stay, I couldn't follow him as without marriage, it's hard to join someone else in another country. He decided to come to the west coast with me since there were more opportunities there. He moved in with me, where I stated that him moving in with me was a tremendous step in our relationship. I hinted that it meant I'd like our relationship to grow further, such as marriage.
The first year he was out here he was unemployed, desperately looking for work and definitely depressed. I ended up financially supporting him for the most part until he finally landed a job. It was incredibly stressful and I most assuredly became resentful since I saw him lounging around in the apartment; it didn't even look like he was applying for jobs. I feel if I'm working my ass off, the least he could have done was attempt to make dinner or clean the apartment a bit. He finally came around out of his depression and helped a bit more after I nearly had a meltdown.
Fast foward to year 6 in our relationship, we have a massive fight because he assumed we were never getting married. That he doesn't believe it's necessary. I believe I replied along the lines of "I can't believe I've wasted 6 years of my life to be with someone who doesn't want to be in a committed relationship with me." I deeply regret that, but I was at my wit's end. I finally asked if he thought about the future, did he see me there. Did he want me in his future? He thought for a moment and said yes, of course. This was another horrific test of our relationship but I was hopeful after that.
With a new job, he kept his position for a little over a year before there were mass layoffs. He's been unemployed for a little over year yet again, and while at least he's paying for his own rent this time, I still cover utilities, internet, and groceries. Before this happened, I had said "I'm at a point in my life where I'd love to be engaged sometime next year, and married the year after. 2 years sounds good."
Fast forward to now, where every few months, about 2-3x a year, I try to gently bring up the 'M' word. He has given me reasons for nothing happening between wanting to have a job first (which while understandable for his pride, seriously, who knows when that'll happen if it's been over a year?) to still not completely understanding the concept of marriage (doesn't like religion that's tied with it, even though I wouldn't have religion as part of it). He said he's willing to do it because it'll make me happy. I've told him that he can't marry me simply for my own happiness, that he needs to want it for himself. Or he'll end up resenting me some time down the road.
I don't want to paint him in a terrible light. He's quite kind, and thoughtful, will buy me flowers if I've had a bad day etc, and he helps out around the apartment far more than he used to when we first moved in together. He does nice things for me often. It's just... 8.5 years is painfully long. Life had been chaotic with moving across the country/to other countries etc. But it feels like it's finally settled (at least for me) since we've lived together for 3.5 years. Every time our friends announce their engagement, or invite us to another wedding (seems like dozens of them), it just eats me up more inside.
So the question is... do I wait some MORE until he has a new job to see if he'll propose? And if so, how long if/when that happens? I feel like if this is a genuine dealbreaker, I have to lose the love of my life as well as my best friend...
...Any advice would be wonderful!!
We're incredibly great for each other, with tons of the same interests, temperament etc. We met in college, at about 20-21 years old, and early on in dating, we both said we never wanted children, so if either of us wanted them, get out of the relationship now (that part is truly perfect). He was in the year below me, and I actually stuck around the area for an extra year to wait for him to graduate.
After a bit of moving, we ended up in the same city, before he was sent abroad to Japan for about a year and a half for work. We kept in contact nearly every single day that he was gone, and while there were certainly hard times, we made it work. I even visited him for a month, and he came and visited me back in the US for a week or two when he was given time off. The economy then plummeted and I was desperately searching for a job on the East Coast. It got extremely bad and I was forced to move across the country for a new job. We'd been together about five years at this point, just constantly trying to get a stable job and settle on one location for most of it. His job ended and he was still trying to find a new job in Japan (since that's his dream location), with no luck. I told him should he decide to stay, I couldn't follow him as without marriage, it's hard to join someone else in another country. He decided to come to the west coast with me since there were more opportunities there. He moved in with me, where I stated that him moving in with me was a tremendous step in our relationship. I hinted that it meant I'd like our relationship to grow further, such as marriage.
The first year he was out here he was unemployed, desperately looking for work and definitely depressed. I ended up financially supporting him for the most part until he finally landed a job. It was incredibly stressful and I most assuredly became resentful since I saw him lounging around in the apartment; it didn't even look like he was applying for jobs. I feel if I'm working my ass off, the least he could have done was attempt to make dinner or clean the apartment a bit. He finally came around out of his depression and helped a bit more after I nearly had a meltdown.
Fast foward to year 6 in our relationship, we have a massive fight because he assumed we were never getting married. That he doesn't believe it's necessary. I believe I replied along the lines of "I can't believe I've wasted 6 years of my life to be with someone who doesn't want to be in a committed relationship with me." I deeply regret that, but I was at my wit's end. I finally asked if he thought about the future, did he see me there. Did he want me in his future? He thought for a moment and said yes, of course. This was another horrific test of our relationship but I was hopeful after that.
With a new job, he kept his position for a little over a year before there were mass layoffs. He's been unemployed for a little over year yet again, and while at least he's paying for his own rent this time, I still cover utilities, internet, and groceries. Before this happened, I had said "I'm at a point in my life where I'd love to be engaged sometime next year, and married the year after. 2 years sounds good."
Fast forward to now, where every few months, about 2-3x a year, I try to gently bring up the 'M' word. He has given me reasons for nothing happening between wanting to have a job first (which while understandable for his pride, seriously, who knows when that'll happen if it's been over a year?) to still not completely understanding the concept of marriage (doesn't like religion that's tied with it, even though I wouldn't have religion as part of it). He said he's willing to do it because it'll make me happy. I've told him that he can't marry me simply for my own happiness, that he needs to want it for himself. Or he'll end up resenting me some time down the road.
I don't want to paint him in a terrible light. He's quite kind, and thoughtful, will buy me flowers if I've had a bad day etc, and he helps out around the apartment far more than he used to when we first moved in together. He does nice things for me often. It's just... 8.5 years is painfully long. Life had been chaotic with moving across the country/to other countries etc. But it feels like it's finally settled (at least for me) since we've lived together for 3.5 years. Every time our friends announce their engagement, or invite us to another wedding (seems like dozens of them), it just eats me up more inside.
So the question is... do I wait some MORE until he has a new job to see if he'll propose? And if so, how long if/when that happens? I feel like if this is a genuine dealbreaker, I have to lose the love of my life as well as my best friend...
...Any advice would be wonderful!!
oh man because I'm Canadian, i spent most of my wedding planning on weddingbells.ca, but it's closed now :CCC
If he doesn't get it together by the end of this year (that will be 3.5 years together!) I'll know it's definitely time to move on.
idgi is getting married more important than the relationship itself?? like she doesn't even sound like likes this guy much anymore
idgi is getting married more important than the relationship itself?? like she doesn't even sound like likes this guy much anymore
nona what is the point of being with someone who loves and supports you and wants to be with you if you dont have a ring to post a picture of on facebook
if my boyfriend ever proposes he is going to be one sad panda. god i hope i don't have to tell him no in public
i told my bf that if he proposed in public id say no and mean it
never forget the nona whose FWB proposed to her in a bar with all their buddies looking on
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