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do any of you have a friend who is just hard work? i've been rly not well lately and i've been avoiding a couple of my friends (i'm the nona who mentioned her psychosis and got a bunch of "oh you're probably a medium!!!1") because they do nothing but bring me down.

now i keep getting messages from one of them saying "oh i'll just pop over don't worry about the state of the house i'll just come keep you company BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT GOOD FRIENDS DO"

thing is, that's not what they do. they are super demanding and manipulative and always say they're doing shit because "THAT'S WHAT GOOD FRIENDS DO"

i'm in no sort of state to tell them to fuck off. wat do?

ugh and they keep saying things like "i don't want to stress you" and "i'll just do this b/c we don't want you getting upset" and it's super condescending and arghhh

sorry just needed to vent

hang out w/ them for like ten minutes and then tell them u need a nap and go to bed and lock ur door

lql i might just do that.

i did take them up on it once tho and they pretty much preyed on my social anxiety and were all "I'm hungry but i don't want to go through your cupboards" and "oh I would love some coke about now" so I p much ended up babysitting them instead.

i have no backbone tbh

ngl this is why i love that my bff's bipo bc we just straight up respect to the other's requests no matter how odd they may seem :/

sorry your friends are obnoxious nona. maybe if you feel up to it later you can try explaining to them what they were doing wrong, but for as long as you can't deal with it, just avoid them tbh.

if you have a cell don't answer when you see their number. if you have a landline, tell people you want to hear from that you won't answer and that they should leave a message - if you're there and want to talk to them, you can pick up when they're leaving the message.

alternately you can also just say you have a really touchy long flu and don't want to be around anyone

tbh i've been ignoring them for a while but i've been guilted into contacting them again because they've been pestering my bf and posting message after message on my fb wall with super passive-aggressive "oh we were just worried because we haven't heard from you and we care about you" crap

honestly (and i may be reading into it, so take this with a grain of salt), but it almost sounds like they LIKE having a friend with an MI because it gives them the opportunity to be progressive and helpful or w/e like 'i'm such a good friend and person b/c i am SO understanding!' like they're in it for themselves and not because they want to be there for you

i've been getting that feeling too tbh. they keep pointing out that they're doing these things because they UNDERSTAND and because they are a GOOD FRIEND and it's like no, if you were a good friend you would respect my need to be left alone.

I blame my therapist. "MY THRP SAYS I NEED MY SPACE."

BTW, good friends say "Would you like me to come over and clean your house? It is totally cool if you hide in the closet or something while I'm there, I'm good with that. Whatever helps. You don't have to talk to me. I'll bring snacks. "

the problem is they say all that stuff but if i did take them up on it they'd be like OKAY I NEED YOU TO PAY FOR ME TO GET THERE ALSO I WILL TALK TO YOU THE ENTIRE TIME AND I WILL NEED FED AND ENTERTAIN ME.

Then they are NOT GOOD FRIENDS and you tote do not need that stress. WTF. They are selfish and thoughtless. I'm punching them in the face in my head right now and I don't even know what they look like.

lql biba as i type this i'm only just realising what assholes they are. why have i put up with this for so long? i'm such a pushover.

maybe i could tell them to fuck off and then blame it on psychosis

They would deserve it. >:| <-- that face is for them.

honestly i would try to tell them to fuck off.

you're not feeling well and it sounds like they're kinda irritating on a good day. you have no obligation to put up with them trying to feel like they're helping you. just be like "no, i don't feel up to it and i'd appreciate it if you left me alone." that way you're being kind of firm but not really mean either.

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