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[mommysquad]

hi nonabibas
itp, discuss outfits and looks and trends you love or hate

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[(Anonymous)]

i do

one time i just started saying "they" because i figured that was neutral enough, but i guess thats transphobic or something? idk. someone told me it was "dehumanizing"

[(Anonymous)]

"they" is fine if it's someone's preferred pronoun. were you using it for someone who preferred sth else?

[(Anonymous)]

well it is pretty rude to start using they when you know they prefer a different pronoun

[(Anonymous)]

it wasnt that they had a preferred pronoun that i wasnt using(that i knew about anyway) it was that i was referring to someone who i wasnt sure what they identified as, so i said "they" and the person i was talking to was like "wow thats really dehumanizing of you"

[(Anonymous)]

then they were being stupid

they is perfectly acceptable for people of unknown gender

[(Anonymous)]

you didn't do anything wrong, idk why they reacted like that - unless they're a transphobe, expected you to know their gender/pronouns, and got offended when you couldn't read their mind

[(Anonymous)]

lol the person you're talking to heard 'it' is dehumanizing & applied it to 'they' too for some reason

ffs we refer to cis ppl as 'they' in some contexts too, it's a perfectly reasonable thing to call a person unless you're intentionally avoiding their preferred pronoun w/ it

[(Anonymous)]

it's transphobic to use the wrong pronouns for someone

[(Anonymous)]

but what if you dont know the pronouns to use

[(Anonymous)]

use "they" or ask

[(Anonymous)]

then ask

use 'they' until that's an option, but if you're using they in front of the person you're referring to, you damn well ought to have asked

[(Anonymous)]

fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

it's a troll nona

[(Anonymous)]

no, they probably believe it

[(Anonymous)]

a lot of people like singular they as a pronoun- its p common ime