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[(Anonymous)]

does anyone else feel rly stupid when using gender neutral pronouns? they're just so... clunky. idk.

[(Anonymous)]

i do

one time i just started saying "they" because i figured that was neutral enough, but i guess thats transphobic or something? idk. someone told me it was "dehumanizing"

[(Anonymous)]

"they" is fine if it's someone's preferred pronoun. were you using it for someone who preferred sth else?

[(Anonymous)]

well it is pretty rude to start using they when you know they prefer a different pronoun

[(Anonymous)]

it wasnt that they had a preferred pronoun that i wasnt using(that i knew about anyway) it was that i was referring to someone who i wasnt sure what they identified as, so i said "they" and the person i was talking to was like "wow thats really dehumanizing of you"

[(Anonymous)]

then they were being stupid

they is perfectly acceptable for people of unknown gender

[(Anonymous)]

you didn't do anything wrong, idk why they reacted like that - unless they're a transphobe, expected you to know their gender/pronouns, and got offended when you couldn't read their mind

[(Anonymous)]

lol the person you're talking to heard 'it' is dehumanizing & applied it to 'they' too for some reason

ffs we refer to cis ppl as 'they' in some contexts too, it's a perfectly reasonable thing to call a person unless you're intentionally avoiding their preferred pronoun w/ it

[(Anonymous)]

it's transphobic to use the wrong pronouns for someone

[(Anonymous)]

but what if you dont know the pronouns to use

[(Anonymous)]

use "they" or ask

[(Anonymous)]

then ask

use 'they' until that's an option, but if you're using they in front of the person you're referring to, you damn well ought to have asked

[(Anonymous)]

fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

it's a troll nona

[(Anonymous)]

no, they probably believe it

[(Anonymous)]

a lot of people like singular they as a pronoun- its p common ime

[(Anonymous)]

this is why i only use "they" unless the person i'm referring to specifically prefers other neutral pronouns

[(Anonymous)]

no

funny how cis ppl always have some excuse for not liking other people's pronoun preferences

[(Anonymous)]

that's because, linguistically speaking, pronouns are a 'closed case', like determiners (the, a, etc.)

open cases, like nouns and verbs, are much easier to add new words into, which is why you probably have an easier time with words like 'reblog' than 'zir'

but that just means it takes longer to get used to them, not that it's impossible. and english did used to have a gender-neutral pronoun set.

[(Anonymous)]

yeah, i was going to say the same, it's probably just a question of practise.