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i think my bff is developing an eating disorder

worried as fuck about her but honestly idk how to help her

what makes you think that? and do you know if she's seeing a therapist or smth like that already?

she's been saying things like "i just have to get serious again/more strict" (because she gained a little bit of weight), "i feel good when i don't eat even though i'm hungry" and "when i eat i feel like shit, i should just not eat y/y" and she's always talking about working out and how she doesn't feel like she's done a good job unless she's like sweating and sore when she's done.

no she's not seeing a therapist and her family can't afford it so she probably won't ever, even if this does become a big problem. i hope it doesn't get that far though. :(

nayrt but from the perspective of someone in recovery from ed just sort of naturally conversing with her when she makes these comments are probably the best way to go? like when she talks about restricting maybe just remind her to be kind to herself, and that eating regular meals is healthier than skipping them without being condescending. tell her that she looks nice as well without being condescending, especially when she's talking negative about her body.

okay biba, i will try this. thank you.

do you have any experience with ed personally nona? bc for me what helped was having a friend who had been through that sort of gently say hey, what's going on with you isn't normal and you should get help for it, without making me feel trapped.

no, not really. i've had unhealthy attitudes towards food, but it never really escalated into a fullblown eating disorder. :x

i mean i've told her that the way she thinks about food is unhealthy (in nicer terms than that haha) because she talks about how restricting herself makes her feel good, basically. and she agrees with me, but she's still really upset with how much she weighs so she doesn't want to stop focusing on exercising/eating habits.

i responded above as well, and in that case maybe see if you can focus on how eating regularly is much healthier than restricting, restricting can really mess with the way your body processes food and can slow your metabolism to a crawl. maybe suggest having healthy meal cooking nights together or something, and especially if she agrees with you that her thinking is getting dangerous, so you can associate food with good healthy eating for her?

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