ok i was just backreading and kind of curious about other people's experiences
my dad found out i'd been cutting when i was about 16/17 and promptly shouted at me bc he was pissed off, i can't remember exactly what happened after that but my mother demanded to see my arms every so often which was pretty humiliating
but despite all this no1evercurred enough to get me proper medical help
my parents found out when i was 16 as well. it was right before my family was coming over, and they yelled at me to put on longer sleeves (bc there was one faded scar that was visible on my arm) bc i was going to be embarrassing to the family. my mom didn't talk to me for days.
parents then went through my room, read my journal, found my exactos, and gave me grief. but never demanded body checks thankfully. after a couple years they stopped acting like it was a thing. so i assume they assume that i've stopped.
i'm sorry bb. i just... do not understand why they think anger and shouting is the appropriate response tbh? i mean i can get why they'd be upset and worried, but still
i live a long way from my family so i dont really need to keep them that informed about my mental health which is probably for the best, i know they mean well and all but they just dgi.
idk. :/ i don't get it either. i understand that worry can translate to yelling and shit but my parents never made an attempt to be like "hey sry we flipped out" and i would have appreciated that. on the other hand, they did their best to give me the care that i needed, which was great.
yeah, if i could keep my parents uninformed i would do it too. i don't blame you one bit biba. your well being and comfort > them wanting to know.
i was 18 i went to the dr for something else that was making me really sick. i had went to her for this same problem a few years right before and she basically mislead me abloo long story, so the second time she str8 up told me "i can't help u with that hope u find someone who can OMG UR ARMS!! im sending u to the hospital ASAP" and the scars were more than a year old
anyway i had to show them which sucked of course and if i ever felt like my privacy was gone, it was then. my mom got in my face and asked me stuff like "why do u do this does it feel good" etc. i went for an eval for a day and they gave me papers with information about calling a therapist and nothing happened after that, same experience as you here - no1curr but a few times a year my mom will start a massive fight with me, feel guilty and check my arms
i told my mom about one time that i cut. she was concerned but bc of how it told her, it looked like sth stupid that i had just tried once for attention, so it was nbd. i remember hitting myself and stuff like that in front of my dad, when i was a kid, but i don't remember what he said or did about that.
in the hospital there were a few personal items i wasn't allowed to have w/out supervision bc of si concerns so i tried to give them back to the nurse on duty. she told me to put on my big girl panties and that she wouldn't store them for me (despite it being their rules) and when i tried to convince her she told me to go away because i wasn't capable of having an adult conversation.
when i told doctors in emerge about it (which was a slow and arduous task bc i disassociate rly badly) they blew me off completely. not gonna talk in detail about it bc it's not healthy, but when i finally talked to my psychiatrist about it more recently she basically said it's by the grace of god you aren't dead from si.
so i'm a little pissed that p much everyone told me it was nbd.
my mum has a vague idea although i think the bigger shock was being driven downtown in handcuffs but the one time she mentioned it was to say she burned herself with a cigarette a few times when she was young and i rly didn't want to talk about it.
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(Anonymous) 2012-05-06 08:00 am (UTC)(link)my dad found out i'd been cutting when i was about 16/17 and promptly shouted at me bc he was pissed off, i can't remember exactly what happened after that but my mother demanded to see my arms every so often which was pretty humiliating
but despite all this no1evercurred enough to get me proper medical help
o well
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parents then went through my room, read my journal, found my exactos, and gave me grief. but never demanded body checks thankfully. after a couple years they stopped acting like it was a thing. so i assume they assume that i've stopped.
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(Anonymous) 2012-05-06 08:07 am (UTC)(link)i live a long way from my family so i dont really need to keep them that informed about my mental health which is probably for the best, i know they mean well and all but they just dgi.
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yeah, if i could keep my parents uninformed i would do it too. i don't blame you one bit biba. your well being and comfort > them wanting to know.
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(Anonymous) 2012-05-06 08:06 am (UTC)(link)i went to the dr for something else that was making me really sick. i had went to her for this same problem a few years right before and she basically mislead me abloo long story, so the second time she str8 up told me "i can't help u with that hope u find someone who can OMG UR ARMS!! im sending u to the hospital ASAP" and the scars were more than a year old
anyway i had to show them which sucked of course and if i ever felt like my privacy was gone, it was then. my mom got in my face and asked me stuff like "why do u do this does it feel good" etc. i went for an eval for a day and they gave me papers with information about calling a therapist and nothing happened after that, same experience as you here - no1curr but a few times a year my mom will start a massive fight with me, feel guilty and check my arms
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(Anonymous) 2012-05-06 08:10 am (UTC)(link)and god the 'why do u do this' questions drove me up the wall
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(Anonymous) 2012-05-06 08:08 am (UTC)(link)i told my mom about one time that i cut. she was concerned but bc of how it told her, it looked like sth stupid that i had just tried once for attention, so it was nbd. i remember hitting myself and stuff like that in front of my dad, when i was a kid, but i don't remember what he said or did about that.
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when i told doctors in emerge about it (which was a slow and arduous task bc i disassociate rly badly) they blew me off completely. not gonna talk in detail about it bc it's not healthy, but when i finally talked to my psychiatrist about it more recently she basically said it's by the grace of god you aren't dead from si.
so i'm a little pissed that p much everyone told me it was nbd.
my mum has a vague idea although i think the bigger shock was being driven downtown in handcuffs but the one time she mentioned it was to say she burned herself with a cigarette a few times when she was young and i rly didn't want to talk about it.
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