nonas, please don't take this the wrong way but i really cannot take the label "hard femme" seriously. where does it even come from? i mean that's why i don't get it, it's a label and there doesn't seem to be any weight/history behind it. also i feel like a goddamn lesbian relic (and i'm only in my mid-twenties) for having grown up with 'low/high femme'. does anyone know who coined this thing? is this about not being ~like all the other girls~, or...?