you know when i was in college in like 2007, i found a site explaining asexuality and it went with the "does not desire any sexual activity but can want romantic relationships" and my first thought was "yes! this word is the perfect way to explain why i want to date without having sex, without letting anyone know i was raped"
so i actually spent some time actually iding as asexual and used it when i went on dates
and then at some point i found aven and noped out of there
thankfully i've gotten therapy about my trauma too and i'm getting more comfortable with sex so i don't need to hide behind things like that when dating now
aven-asexuality can be really, idk, appealing as a way to avoid problems w/ sexuality
i still don't know what's up w/ me tbh. attracted to ppl but 0 interest in sex. i don't know how much of that is from sexual assault or from ssri use or just the way i am
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rape tw
(Anonymous) 2015-06-12 01:39 am (UTC)(link)so i actually spent some time actually iding as asexual and used it when i went on dates
and then at some point i found aven and noped out of there
thankfully i've gotten therapy about my trauma too and i'm getting more comfortable with sex so i don't need to hide behind things like that when dating now
Re: rape tw
(Anonymous) 2015-06-12 01:44 am (UTC)(link)aven-asexuality can be really, idk, appealing as a way to avoid problems w/ sexuality
i still don't know what's up w/ me tbh. attracted to ppl but 0 interest in sex. i don't know how much of that is from sexual assault or from ssri use or just the way i am
Re: rape tw
(Anonymous) 2015-06-12 01:49 am (UTC)(link)it's really fucked up how "don't ever interrogate what might be internalized homophobia inside you" is what aven's built into their narratives