my mom was married to an abusive guy. she was the only one to get married, and it was annulled six months in. she's been in ltrs since then, but that's not the life for me. she really was the only one besides my grandparents.
my grandparents stayed together at least, but they divorced their former spouses respectively.
my dad's marriage is still successful even though they both cheated on each other.
i don't want to have a shit for a guy around, i hated that my family all had to prove that they deserved child support, etc. i'm aware that it still happens in marriage. but all of my family had children with people who weren't planning to be in those relationships for that long.
none of your family was protected by marriage. why do you think marriage will protect you?
your family chose to have babies with people they didn't plan to stay with. how does that relate to people having babies with people they plan to be with for a lifetime, without marriage paperwork?
none of my family was married with kids, can you read?
all of my family had babies with guys they wanted to keep, but the guys had different plans.
i know there are relationships where ppl have babies and aren't married and stay together, i'm just really distrustful of that sort of relationship, and i'd like to make sure i'd have a legal basis for the child to get support even if we are divorced. plus i'd like a relationship where we'd have the same expectations. i'm sure it can happen without marriage, but i'd like to be married.
it doesn't rly have anything to do with the wedding itself.
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(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 07:13 pm (UTC)(link)my grandparents stayed together at least, but they divorced their former spouses respectively.
my dad's marriage is still successful even though they both cheated on each other.
i don't want to have a shit for a guy around, i hated that my family all had to prove that they deserved child support, etc. i'm aware that it still happens in marriage. but all of my family had children with people who weren't planning to be in those relationships for that long.
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(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 07:16 pm (UTC)(link)none of your family was protected by marriage. why do you think marriage will protect you?
your family chose to have babies with people they didn't plan to stay with. how does that relate to people having babies with people they plan to be with for a lifetime, without marriage paperwork?
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(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 07:18 pm (UTC)(link)all of my family had babies with guys they wanted to keep, but the guys had different plans.
i know there are relationships where ppl have babies and aren't married and stay together, i'm just really distrustful of that sort of relationship, and i'd like to make sure i'd have a legal basis for the child to get support even if we are divorced. plus i'd like a relationship where we'd have the same expectations. i'm sure it can happen without marriage, but i'd like to be married.
it doesn't rly have anything to do with the wedding itself.
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