nonas am i being unreasonable here? my bf and i are both very sick, both in a rly shitty place rn, both doped up on meds. i'm caring for him but i'm also having a rly bad time of things mi-wise (having a few psychotic episodes and generally feeling like shit) and really not able to deal with seeing anyone at the moment other than close family

i tell my two friends this and they're all "oh well we were gonna come and visit you by surprise!"

they live ages away and would probably have to crash at ours if they did this. even if they didn't the house is just not in a condition for visitors rn.

and they don't get why this would be a terrible idea. now the dude's trying to guilt me by saying they were "doing the true friend thing"

am i being unreasonable by being angry at them? they've pulled some manipulative bullshit before so idk if i'm being biased.