but the longer the process went on and the more bisexual women I met up with, the more it seemed like she and I would be working off different scripts. the impression I often got was that she had made the decision to start dating men and women, but saw no difference between dating men and women aside from the kind of sex we might have, and as a result had ideas about sex/dating that were clearly constructed by hetero expectations. (by this I mean: she expected to be asked out, she expected to be seduced, she expected a future in which she wouldn’t be expected to earn too much money, she “couldn’t come out” to her parents for very diffuse reasons unrelated to fears of homop