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colonizationkills:

i’m gonna answer this one publicly if you don’t mind bc it’s a useful thing

a) visibility is a thing that is only safe for certain people, yes. your whiteness does help, but to be honest your being dfab is a huge, huge part of this in that you don’t experience transmisogyny. “stepping up” into masculinity is not policed anywhere near as violently and harshly as “stepping down” into womanhood or any sort of femininity, for lack of better phrasing. i’m still a bit woozy from blood loss and a lot of travelling today so forgive me if this is Bad Wording.

b) queering or unsettling gender is a thing that, like, every queer subculture does by way of, y’know, being queer. nb people don’t have the monopoly on looking ambiguous or mixing different things/actions/aesthetics that are conventionally man-only or woman-only. i mean, hell, it can’t be said that all cishet people are always entirely unambiguous all the time. that’s not a “problematic” thing.

c) what’s also not problematic as such is being a “bad representative of nb diversity” by being very Generic White Dfab Androgynous Skinny Person. what is is not realizing how much power and how overrepresented you are in that position. that said: i encourage every person who ends up gravitating toward that Generic Ideal to examine why they want it. is it something you really want? why do you want it? what would need to change for you not to want it (and what does that say to you)? i don’t want to overstate this because a lot of this thinking and changing happens during transition, even during medical transition, and it’s a journey you can only really wing, but it’s important to think about this at all stages.

d) what’s offensive is all the fucking white dfab nb banging on about visibility and erasure, if that makes sense. wanting to be visible is a thing, but wanting not to be murdered is another thing? wanting not to be locked in the back of a cop car for the fourth time with two white cops interrogating you about childhood trauma is a thing? wanting to not be raped if ever you end up in state custody is a thing? a lot of us are too visible or are coercively erased in ways where the violence is actually enacted against us rather than being something we benefit from? basically, like, you’re fine as long as you realize you are really fucking well off here.

tl;dr do whatever you like but centre twoc in your trans discourse and don’t underestimate how much power you have here.

ofc they hate dfab ppl

"wanting to not be raped if ever you end up in state custody is a thing"

p sure that happens to ppl no matter what their gender or presentation is

women are more likely to get harassment if they don't conform to gender roles wtf

"wanting to be visible is a thing, but wanting not to be murdered is another thing? wanting not to be locked in the back of a cop car for the fourth time with two white cops interrogating you about childhood trauma is a thing? wanting to not be raped if ever you end up in state custody is a thing?"

this NEVER happens to woman ofc

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