Anonymous asked: so i'm like greyromantic & am super comfortable with identifying with it but is it normal for arospec people to fantasize about romantic relationships but not having romantic attraction to someone irl?
well, first off, and idk if this is helpful, but imo if you experience something, it’s normal.
I’m not sure what you mean by “romantic relationships” but I think it’s pretty common for some arospec people to fantasize about being in a relationship that’s typically seen as romantic. it doesn’t necessarily mean we want one, and it doesn’t mean we’re experiencing romantic love.
an arospec person can have a romantic relationship. it’s just a matter of making sure the other person knows you’re arospec and what is ok and what is not ok. (like some aros may be freaked out by some romantic gestures whereas others may not be)
in my aro mind, ‘romantic’ relationships aren’t so much the romantic part, but more the relationship part. I really love having close friendships and I guess I see what most see as a ‘romantic’ relationship as just a very close relationship. so I also sometimes fantasize about it I suppose?
fantasies are often VERY different from what we want or experience IRL.
I hope this helped! if not feel free to send more asks! <3
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well, first off, and idk if this is helpful, but imo if you experience something, it’s normal.
I’m not sure what you mean by “romantic relationships” but I think it’s pretty common for some arospec people to fantasize about being in a relationship that’s typically seen as romantic. it doesn’t necessarily mean we want one, and it doesn’t mean we’re experiencing romantic love.
an arospec person can have a romantic relationship. it’s just a matter of making sure the other person knows you’re arospec and what is ok and what is not ok. (like some aros may be freaked out by some romantic gestures whereas others may not be)
in my aro mind, ‘romantic’ relationships aren’t so much the romantic part, but more the relationship part. I really love having close friendships and I guess I see what most see as a ‘romantic’ relationship as just a very close relationship. so I also sometimes fantasize about it I suppose?
fantasies are often VERY different from what we want or experience IRL.
I hope this helped! if not feel free to send more asks! <3