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do any nonas have any experience getting away from a friendship that was both significantly abusive and really important to who you are now? i am breaking away from a friend who i'm now aware exercises a lot of convert dominance and control and in my case cruelty, but i was vulnerable in the first place because they were a huge source of legit support and encouragement for my creative work. i am trying to put this in perspective alongside child/adolescent abuse perpetrated by adults who also brought things to my life that are a part of me. but i still feel totally mentally unprepared to cope with this coming from a "peer," like these are emotions i don't have words for. i am not in crisis about this now but i do need to get as much peace with it as i can now so i can focus on other things.

cut them off completely, it's the only way

yeah i probably will but i still have a lot to work out on my own

probably

ok

don't be a dick

ugh fuck off

you can do it biba, it's okay to feel scared or uncertain but rn the important thing is getting this person to a place where they can't hurt you.

thank you <3 i am not going to allow myself to be motivated out of fear and shameful gratitude anymore.

you don't owe people your time and energy and no one has the right to hurt you just because they previously helped. idk as a thinking thing sometimes it helped me to like. imagine the situation was something a strange was telling me about in a coffee shop. like if some woman I didn't know was telling me about the things my ex said/did I'd be like "WTF that is abuse how can we get you out of there"

we've been given all these reasons not to take care of our own well being, but you deserve better than that biba. hope you happiness

thank you <3

you can find people who provide you the same emotional support and creative encouragement who are not abusive to you

please cut this person out of your life. i know it is hard but it is worth it

yeah i am <3 this is more about how i come to terms with it all on my own

gl biba <3

i am still working through those feelings a long time after leaving the relationship. sometimes i dont feel like certain feelings will ever go away for me, but it is a comfort to know that the person doesnt have a role in my life anymore

cut them off

i had a similar deal and really the only thing that worked was to gtfo

thank you biba <3 hope u well now

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