sometimes i wonder if it is this honestly. i've dealt with bad doctors before so i tend to believe them when they talk abt some ridiculous thing a dr told them, and recently they've been frustrated bc their latest doctor has been trying to set them up with a psychiatrist since he things some of their pain/symptoms might be psychosomatic.
at the time i went along with it like "yeah thats dumb no way" because the relative is actually my mom lql and i dont want to think that. i feel like ive seen her struggle with the problems my whole life and its so hard to believe that they might be made up. but she does fit so many of the signs. but then i feel guilty thinking that, like im ~betraying~ her or something.
sorry this is so long i just dk what to think or feel rly
not directly. i've seen her sit down because she gets dizzy, or seen her have to lay down from back pain, but some of the more bizarre ones i have not seen. but then again i dont rly follow her into the bathroom so i can't rly know. i see results sometimes, like she's been covered in bruises which she told me she gets from passing out and falling over, but i've never actually seen her passing out or vomiting or things like that. :/
yeah, you're right it would've been hard to see her actually get sick bc im assuming you don'y live with her. this rly sucks bc it's understandable why you got frustrated with her and why she prob wants to avoid doctors
idk if this will help, but i feel like this with my mom, too - except she sort of turns it on me, like i have some mental health issues and it's like she wants them to be like they were at the worst and had to move home b/c i couldn't take care of myself/had no job/wasn't getting out of bed/etc
now whenever i am excited about something new for example, she'll be like 'i hope it doesn't make you too anxious' and says all sorts of things that are just so hurtful like, why would you say that?
parents can be toxic and you can set boundaries. i've basically started telling my mother 'i don't want to talk about this anymore because it's not a productive conversation' and if she keeps at it, i hang up
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Re: tw mi
(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 12:50 am (UTC)(link)at the time i went along with it like "yeah thats dumb no way" because the relative is actually my mom lql and i dont want to think that. i feel like ive seen her struggle with the problems my whole life and its so hard to believe that they might be made up. but she does fit so many of the signs. but then i feel guilty thinking that, like im ~betraying~ her or something.
sorry this is so long i just dk what to think or feel rly
Re: tw mi
(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 12:51 am (UTC)(link)Re: tw mi
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(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 01:04 am (UTC)(link)hope everything is ok soon
Re: tw mi
(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 12:57 am (UTC)(link)now whenever i am excited about something new for example, she'll be like 'i hope it doesn't make you too anxious' and says all sorts of things that are just so hurtful like, why would you say that?
parents can be toxic and you can set boundaries. i've basically started telling my mother 'i don't want to talk about this anymore because it's not a productive conversation' and if she keeps at it, i hang up