your feelings are totally valid but i just wanna explain from the perspective of someone w/ chronic illness
going to the doctor can be really frustrating bc doctors will often ignore symptoms or tell you they're nbd even if they are. it gets to the point where going to the doctor at all becomes something you don't want to do, because you know they'll just blow it off. it's really really difficult for someone with chronic illness to find a doctor who isn't crap. a lot of doctors start to think you're drug seeking, or a hypochondriac, or a bunch of other things. it starts to twist your perception on what's an emergency and what's not and you start to figure you should just wait symptoms out and only go to the doctor if they don't go away, even if it's a severe symptom. because doctors sometimes do blow off even severe symptoms. it's not right, but a LOT of doctors treat people with chronic illness horribly
that said you have every right to worry and be honest about your feelings, and if it's a stress on you you have every right to ask them to not put that load on you
thank you for this response, i really do appreciate it. i know ill never really "get" it bc i havent lived it but i have seen how doctors can treat her like crap and just totally disregard symptoms and complains shes had, and the frustrating goose chases she gets sent on re: specialists and appointments and stuff. that makes a lot of sense about not being able to tell what is emergencies anymore and that would explain a lot... it probably seems super irritating if im always suggesting for her to get treatment for something she might honestly believe is nbd, like dismissive of me or something. i will bring this up when i talk it out with her i think, like just say im sorry i wasnt more sensitive to that and didn't really get it.
idk if it's dismissive, it's just that you come from a different set of experiences etc than her when you say what's worth seeing a doctor about. she's factoring in everything that's happened with doctors before, as well as what she can afford
and certain things that are an emergency for an able-bodied person are kind of normal to me, and going to the hospital or doctor every time would leave me in tons of debt
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Re: tw mi
(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 12:49 am (UTC)(link)going to the doctor can be really frustrating bc doctors will often ignore symptoms or tell you they're nbd even if they are. it gets to the point where going to the doctor at all becomes something you don't want to do, because you know they'll just blow it off. it's really really difficult for someone with chronic illness to find a doctor who isn't crap. a lot of doctors start to think you're drug seeking, or a hypochondriac, or a bunch of other things. it starts to twist your perception on what's an emergency and what's not and you start to figure you should just wait symptoms out and only go to the doctor if they don't go away, even if it's a severe symptom. because doctors sometimes do blow off even severe symptoms. it's not right, but a LOT of doctors treat people with chronic illness horribly
that said you have every right to worry and be honest about your feelings, and if it's a stress on you you have every right to ask them to not put that load on you
Re: tw mi
(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 12:58 am (UTC)(link)Re: tw mi
(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 01:01 am (UTC)(link)Re: tw mi
(Anonymous) 2013-09-01 01:00 am (UTC)(link)and certain things that are an emergency for an able-bodied person are kind of normal to me, and going to the hospital or doctor every time would leave me in tons of debt