thank you for this response, i really do appreciate it. i know ill never really "get" it bc i havent lived it but i have seen how doctors can treat her like crap and just totally disregard symptoms and complains shes had, and the frustrating goose chases she gets sent on re: specialists and appointments and stuff. that makes a lot of sense about not being able to tell what is emergencies anymore and that would explain a lot... it probably seems super irritating if im always suggesting for her to get treatment for something she might honestly believe is nbd, like dismissive of me or something. i will bring this up when i talk it out with her i think, like just say im sorry i wasnt more sensitive to that and didn't really get it.