whenever i'm having a bad day or smth and say anything to my friend about it she takes it as a personal attack and it's rly fucking weird

she searches for ways to turn it into a fight where she's the victim and if i ever go "i wasn't talking about you tho?" (even in situations where it's very obvious i'm not talking about a person) or smth she goes "okay" like she's being the adult talking to a hysterical mess or smth